The Story the Body Tells

If you’re at all confused about where you should stand regarding Confederate monuments, read Caroline Randall Williams’ “You Want a Confederate Monument? My Body Is a Confederate Monument.” It’s a searing, blistering indictment of America’s penchant for myth-making. She writes:

“You cannot dismiss me as someone who doesn’t understand. You cannot say it wasn’t my family members who fought and died. My blackness does not put me on the other side of anything. It puts me squarely at the heart of the debate. I don’t just come from the South. I come from Confederates. I’ve got rebel-gray blue blood coursing my veins. My great-grandfather Will was raised with the knowledge that Edmund Pettus was his father. Pettus, the storied Confederate general, the grand dragon of the Ku Klux Klan, the man for whom Selma’s Bloody Sunday Bridge is named. So I am not an outsider who makes these demands. I am a great-great-granddaughter.”

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8 Years Ago

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Not long ago, Facebook started sending me reminders of “memories,” and as of late they’ve been featuring posts from eight years ago, when I’d just finished chemotherapy for early-stage breast cancer. After I went through treatment, I’d sometimes remind myself on bad days that, well, hey, at least it ain’t chemo! (Chemo is the worst.) In any case, this was one of those not-so-good days, and I’m glad to have been cancer-free every since.

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Ron Jeremy Charged with Rape

Today on my Forbes blog I wrote about Ron Jeremy, who’s been charged with forcible rape and sexual assault. You can read the details here. Since Jeremy is a fixture in the porn industry, I had various interactions with him over the years. When I was working for Playboy TV, I went to cover an “extreme porn vacation” In Mexico, where Jeremy was one of the performers. I seem to recall he’d had his chest hair waxed into the shape of a heart. I was also present when he performed in “The World Biggest Gangbang III.” At a certain point, he was brought in to have sex with the film’s star, Houston, and he was able to pop on command, per the director’s instruction, as the crowd surrounding him counted him down to ejaculation. In 2009, I pulled into the Roosevelt Hotel, where I was about to check in for a week to write about how the porn industry had been impacted by the recession, and Jeremy was walking in the back of the hotel. I’ve talked to him at various times. Mostly, he seemed like a narcissist and an egomaniac. That doesn’t make him a rapist, of course. Rumors have long been around that he’d sexually assaulted women. In all likelihood, some of those early allegations were dismissed or ignored because the victim was a sex worker or a porn star.

To exactly no one’s surprise among those who know him, he denied the allegations today on Twitter.

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All the News That's Fit to Newsletter

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In my latest newsletter, I talk about writing blocks, the Warren Ellis controversy, and racism in the porn industry.

An excerpt:

There’s been a lot of conversation lately about racism in the porn industry. It is true: There are ways in which the porn industry engages in systemically racist practices. That is not a good thing at all, and I hope that the porn industry works to rectify that wrong. At the same time, I’ve spent over 20 years writing about the porn industry, and the one forever truth in porn was told to me years ago by a producer: If there wasn’t a demand for it, it wouldn’t be made.

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The Wannabe Woodsmen

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Two or three times a week, I get an email from someone somewhere in the world who wants to be a male porn star. I don’t respond. My advice? Pick another profession. The woodsman’s job isn’t an easy one. He must get it up and get it off on command while a semicircle of bored male crew members and the camera watch him. God forbid he should have “wood problems,” as it’s known in the business—he might never work again. On top of the pressure, the pay isn’t that great. In this line of work, his female costar is likely making more than he is.

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Substackin'

Substack is the platform I use for my newsletter, and I wrote a short Twitter thread about it today. In short, Substack is a novel platform for writers in that it doesn’t cockblock writers from their readers but serves writers by empowering them to directly engage with, monetize, and transfer their audience. Good stuff.

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As of today, my newsletter reaches 100 email in-boxes every week. Originally, my newsletter was called “The Valley,” but then I realized someone else on Substack already had that name, so I changed it to “Valleywood.” That’s a compound word that combines The Valley, where I live (the San Fernando Valley, that is), and Hollywood, where everything happens. So far, I’ve written about posing naked, making money, and how to flourish when the world is falling apart. In any case, you can subscribe here. You’ll get one newsletter from me a week, every Friday.

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Lessons from the C-suite

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I shared some of what I’ve learned as a consultant to male C-suite executives in Victoria Pynchon’s newsletter. You can read the whole thing here, and you can sign up for her newsletter here.

An excerpt:

“When women get locked into imposter syndrome, men dive into the unknown of presuming they’ll figure it out along the way. Take a page from the guy who landed the corner office by faking it until he made it. He isn’t any more capable than you. He’s just more capable at pretending that he’s more capable than you.”

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Insecure

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